Hey. I'm crossposting this plea for help in three communities because I'm desperate, lol.
So, this is my problem:
My hair naturally very thick and pretty wavy. I've kind of always had problems with it being a little frizzy and unmanageable, but it's never been as bad as it has been for the past two years or so.
Basically, the outer layer is like... super damaged, really frizzy, brittle, scraggly, wispy... just terrible. And the inner layer, basically everything that's untouched by friction or weather, is smooth, wavy, and nice. I can literally separate the crappy portion from the good portion when its in a ponytail.
I'm sure I'm not helping the matter - I always play with my hair because I shed a lot, so I'm constantly pulling loose hairs out of my ponytail, it's become like a habit at this point. Also, I have my hair up a lot, so the scrunchie is probably pretty abrasive. I did get a new scrunchie to fix the problem - it's thicker and softer seeming, but I'm not sure if it's helped at all.
I've done at home oil treatments and bought this Henna and Placenta stuff from CVS, which actually does have something of a noticeable effect, but more on the already healthy hair than the damaged hair.
I can't just simply cut it off - the only way to really start over with my hair at this point would to cut it super super short (and even then, I'm not sure how far up the damage goes), and I'm really not willing to do that just yet. At the moment, my hair is a few inches past my shoulders, pretty much just above my chest I would say.
I also use shampoo and conditioner that is specifically for frizzy hair. I use a leave in conditioner that claims to make it more manageable as well.
I'm just getting really sick of this. It's just bushy, rough, and terrible. And when my hair is up in a ponytail, the disparity is really obvious.
So yeah... help, please. =[
I am at school right now, but I will probably edit later with pictures, just in case that helps.
ETA: I let my hair air dry. I have used a straightener pretty sparingly in my life, and only once in like the past couple of years. I have also dyed my hair maybe like three times, and that was years ago. And I pretty much never blow dry my hair.